Related note, I came across this newsletter which goes into more detail about our “work” identity and how your employer doesn’t (to your point!) “care about you”
(https://wokescientist.substack.com/p/work-life-balance-is-a-...)
Romantic partners usually wish for more time to spend together, deepening the relationship or just hanging out.
This isn't productive per se, but it's natural that your life partner would like to actually live a life with you and not see you checking off tasks at home.
Is his true calling house renovations and childcare? If not, then it’s probably a choice that is being made for him. Personally, I love my babies and I consider it worth my time for basic care and teaching them things, but only as much as it benefits them. For the house renovations and all other labor that goes into partner-driven life, I would be much happier living in a mud hut with a candle and a math book, but I’ll never whisper a word about it. Its easy to become someone’s unlimited source of free labor, and they’ll always think they’re doing you a favor.
It's pretty poor behaviour to make massive assumptions about and be judgmental of someone else's marriage