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Why do you think women have a better support structure than men?

Not OP, but it might be because when you ask men and women about their social/support networks, men as a group report having a worse support network.

https://www.cnn.com/2022/11/29/health/men-friendships-wellne...

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-7488709/One-five-me...

https://medium.com/the-weekend-reader/why-dont-men-have-frie...

https://i.redd.it/lt7xl43joni61.jpg

Not that this is entirely my experience, but somewhat. But I'm a more "sensitive" guy and a lot of my friendships form accordingly. I'm probably not usual.

If you think women don't have WAY more resources than men in society, be it for their social health or otherwise, I have to question your ability to observe evidence.

"If you don't see this thing that's TOTALLY OBVIOUS to me, I don't know what to tell you." - Don't forget confirmation bias etc on your side. Different things are obvious to different people.

What resources, for example? Genuinely curious. Social health, like access to psychologists or what?

Not GP: better/closer friends, no stigma about going to psychologists, and showing emotions is still seen as "unmanly" (which I used to great success to weed out partners early, as I tear up easily in movies and any date giving me too much shit for it I can safely discard)

I don't want to get into that, I maybe labelled as something I am not. But its just personal experience and that's all I can say.

Besides the obvious, joining some group that interests you in your local area in order to meet new people, I'd also suggest checking out some discord channels where you can meet / chat / video chat with people. They really took off over the past couple of years, and there are quite a range to choose from.

https://disboard.org/ is a good index of them.

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