I have yet to encounter a single person defending the show on these grounds, and I know or follow a lot of progressive/feminist/queer/etc. type people.
Have you met anyone defending the show?
Some of the critics are, but far fewer than normal for this kind of thing, I think Mindy Kaling overplayed her hand.
I think this is a case where both takes are wrong, it’s a bad show, but not because of how they make fred a stereotype