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> Fair point as this person does want something. They want that friendship back.

If a friendship stops existing because you delete a Facebook account, it was never a friendship. Or at least wasn't one by then.

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It doesn’t always work that way. We sometimes have friends we might not stay actively in touch with, but are able to pick up where we left off when we are back in contact. Friendships are complex.

Ok but then they wouldn't have been lost by deleting the Facebook, the person could just get back in touch. But they seem to believe it would be weird (psychotic even?) if they did, which to me points to them not being actual friendships.

I think there is a difference between 'liking' an old friend's stuff, who you're no longer in actual contact with (not talking or meeting or anything), and kind of re-instating contact by 'adding friend' - even if you only intend to occasionally 'like' stuff in the same way as above, they don't know that after all.

The author explicitly mentions that they want their casual friendships back though:

> It’s perfectly okay to have causal online friends from school, childhood, work etc and only talk through social media and keep up that way.

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