There was a really cool episode on Mindscape with Arik Kershenbaum: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=QFLrpIslOOk
He talks about why certain things simply make sense. Like how wings evolved six times, why communication via sound is simple and communication via some sort of telepathy is not, and why it makes sense for a large animal to be symmetric. From that he reasons why alien life probably wouldn't look all that different.