Well, this is all based on my perception and feeling, but in this case at least it appeared to be merely at the mention of how this story might relate to nonbinary gender identity. Just my perspective, but you appeared to really jumped at the opportunity to describe their their gender identity as imaginary and liken it to a sexual kink (are kinks imaginary either? IDK). Just seems as if this topic has fallen into the focus of your ire, which I just feel is a bit prejudiced.

For you it's at worst an extremely rare, uncomfortable but minor inconvenience to you. But now you jump at this kinda shitty reactivity towards the topic, which must sorta stink for other HN readers who just try to live their lives, but happen have a nonbinary or trans gender identity. IMO you're just piling on in a needlessly irritable way.

Just an outsiders perspective. Happy holidays and I hope you have a nice rest of your day, fwiw.