I usually stay around 3 to 3 1/2 years. Not the worst tenure but not the best.
I now prioritize positive feelings, emotions and energy above all.
My goal in all meetings and all interactions is to keep positive emotions high.
What took me a long time to learn as an analytical and technical minded person is that there is a way to be optimistic and positive without being fake or insincere.
I have learned to try to set a positive tone first thing on every call by saying something optimistic and positive.
I also now motivate, encourage and bump people up (often, in a semi joking way).
I spent my career running over people in my way like a freight train. Now i emphasize on making sure the atmosphere is right.
When I was an engineer I felt that logic was the only thing that mattered. In fact( my experience, is that logical discussions and arguments are actually energy draining and viewed as negative by most people.
You could be completely correct on some point, on anything, but if the temperature of the conversation is not jovial or convivial it will be perceived as negativity and that association will stick to you.
Look how Bill Clinton and Warren Buffet enter most conversations. They always keep things light.
If you are a dry, logical, analytical robot - People will find a way to hate you eventually.