Dating sucks for unappealing men, and dating apps have made it suck for them more efficiently. That’s the primary male grievance against them, and it’s everything to do with the aggrieved, and nothing to do with the apps.
Taken from Houellebecq novel Whatever. I agree with the general idea, which is also one of the reasons why I think prostitution should be legal.
Most men don’t get any more fulfillment from having empty ONS than women do.
Thuse if you see an attractive man with an unattractive woman -> online dating unattractive man with attractive woman-> real life dating
It’s all <something/somebody else’s> fault.
I've seen the difference at work. And for those 80% the changes OP is suggesting would be good.
If you showed me pictures of 100 women in my dating age range, I think I’d find around 20* of them attractive on average. That was true when I was 20, 30, or now.
* - That might even be a significant over-estimation.
Women were a huge difference. 80% not attractive, 20% or less attractive.
Because if you read past the first and third graphs, which do more-or-less support your position in terms of how they answered "how attractive would you say this person is?", and look into the "how likely was it that you took action to communicate with them?", the selectivity flips quite hard into something that many of us would probably guess: "women's looks matter more to men than men's do to women".
Or perhaps this one, which used eHarmony data: https://www.oii.ox.ac.uk/news-events/news/new-study-reveals-...
Is what people say when surveyed or what they do when free to act more relevant in dating? I think it's the latter.
If you want to solve the problem of the typical man having matches that go nowhere, then fine, remove the matches that go nowhere, and he can have no matches instead. Also, the Pareto principle for dating apps isn’t just about physical attractiveness, it’s about all of the factors that women discriminate against combined. If you want to make an app that restricts the ability of women to discriminate effectively, then good luck getting women to use it.
Tinder is more of a hookup app anyway. It's a different market/mindset.