It’s toxic incentives!
Standard online dating sometimes works, but in general, it is a meh experience and a waste of time. This because it exploits two mainstream bad incentives: men’s toxic desperateness and women’s narcissistic attention-feeding.
A possible solution would be an app with no chat component whatsoever, strictly just matching for dates in real life - you have to take seriously. Can we compile a list of such apps?
1. Breeze (2022: NL only)
2. ..?