I think this might be a self fulfilling prophecy.
I’m 40 and I’m still making friends. I don’t see why there must be some sort of magical age limit.
Imagine there’s another one of you. Wouldn’t you want to be friends with them?
Holy shit, that's a really thought-provoking question.
I wonder how many others would answer "probably not".
To me, this isn't about liking me, who wouldn't!
It's more about being identical. Even if a friend shares the same likes, interests, hobbies, they have a different view on it. Their brain thinks via a different process.
I don't want a mirror as a friend.
Most people are just really bad at it; some people here who I try involve in activities always cancel or have ‘better stuff todo’ and then cry, later, that no one invites them anymore or they have no one to play with.
It’s not that hard…
> Imagine there’s another one of you. Wouldn’t you want to be friends with them?
Nice one and yes, I would :)
Yeah but finding the other ones like you is incredibly difficult. People in their 30's and 40's with zero friends looking to make new ones are basically non existent where I live.
Why would they need to have “zero friends”. It is not like people have a max number of friends they can have.
One person was really blunt with me: "you're a pretty cool guy, but I don't have time/space in my life for new people". Other people are less blunt but the same principle applies.
edit: But maybe that's my British instincts wrongly diagnosing a statement that I have no real context to judge better.
I just feel that if it were possible to track every time that sentence is said it would probably be significantly more often used as a polite excuse rather than as a truthful statement. (And even then, that's my gut feeling / assumption, I may even be wrong about which use is more common).
Interests connect and these guys hardly ever meet or met someone that intersects as much, so they clear their schedules (as do I) to foster a friendship.
I met most of my friends, business partners and clients this way. Overlapping interests and chance encounters.
I meet plenty people on internet in subreddits with the same interests and sometimes we meet up and then it clicks or it doesn’t.