As an example, I don't like when people touch my hair. Always had a hard time going to the hairdresser.
Don't think that makes me mentally ill. People like different things. Ain't nothing wrong with that.
I feel pretty frustrated when I hear it labeled as a "mental health problem." For me it sounds like fear maybe stemming from a past experience where he may have been quite vulnerable and got really hurt and wants to avoid feeling so hurt again. And in that framing, I think most of us experience this in different realms of life. I think why I have such strong reactions to "mental health problem" is that I get the impression it says "there's something wrong with you" and may make the person feel more alienated, instead of showing them I too may experience something similar.
You’re right I was being harsh, but I wanted to really make a strong point that the above commenter was not describing innate qualities of manhood.
I wasn't trying to say this was innate to manhood itself. I started with "I'm a man" so that, combined with information in the second sentence you'd know that I date women. I said it that way because I don't actually identify with any of the sexual orientation labels.
I probably gave that impression by describing it in such dramatic terms. Basically what I'm trying to say is, I don't like being touched much in general by anyone, and who I'm attracted to isn't part of that.
Less a mental health problem than a mere insecurity. Amateur hour psychology: It sounds avoidant to me, an attachment style that is the likely the product of being encouraged to be independent and self sufficient by caregivers (emotionally and/or physically) at a very young age. It leads one to view intimacy as an undesirable form of control.