truth is nothing matters and everything matters.
Say you are a teenage girl, you see yourself in the mirror, you don't like your body, you think you're fat.
You see other "fat" girls on reddit that receive a lot of praise for displaying themselves half naked.
your looks are very important to you, you think about it constantly and it depresses you.
one day you post a picture on this reddit thing, your face is hidden, it's hard to recognize the place where it was take, but you wanna try'n see what happens.
it works, men (and some women) like your picture, they put a like on it, they compliment your looks, you now feel better about yourself.
so you post more and more of them, everyone more audacious than the one before.
now what's important to you is: how can I be more visible, more visibility = more self esteem!
you open on OF and now what's important is "how can I promote it?".
not long after what's important becomes: how can I make money out of it?
and now you're in trouble, because that's your job and you didn't even know you wanted it and are not sure if it's the right thing to do, but you do it anyway, once you set things in motion, inertia becomes a b*tch.
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It's an hyperbole, I know, but it's the small things that start the engine.
If people only thought about what actually matters it would be: food, water, shelter.
If I never thought "is there another option?" when I was much younger about clubs to go to in my hometown, I would never have discovered the underground music scene lurking in the shadows that has then become a big part of my life and it's now so important to me.
And I was one who did not even cared so much about music and went straight to "the default choice" about it.
> E.g if you never buy unhealthy snacks, you'll never have unhealthy snacks at home,
1 - there's no such thing as healthy snacks (if we are talking about snacks the product and not "a small amount of food eaten between meals")
2 - it means that at one point you though "is there another option?" about snacks, because the default option is not healthy at all, especially in the US, proving that "It doesn’t have to be about big decisions"