The default effect: why we renounce our ability to choose
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Personally, I think this is the worst advice. Don't spend time thinking about unimportant things. I think it's a major contributor to the default effect.
There are so many choices to make everyday that thinking about each one becomes exhausting/overwhelming so people just pick the default all the time (even when it matters).
The key is figuring out what matters and what doesn't (to you) and only thinking about what does.
Also setting yourself up for "good" defaults is a way to work towards an outcome without having to constantly make good choices. E.g if you never buy unhealthy snacks, you'll never have unhealthy snacks at home, so picking any random snack (the default) works towards living a healthier life.
Maybe? I get the Steve Jobs “only own one outfit so no energy is wasted deciding what to wear” thing, but it’s a fine line between that and the “wear a dark suit because everyone else does” thing.
> The key is figuring out what matters and what doesn’t (to you) and only thinking about what does.
Lots of respect for recognizing that not everyone will have the same answers. But, what if “what matters” is learning new things, or challenging oneself, or being a generalist? There are a lot of areas that (some) people find fulfilling that don’t lend themselves to single-minded focus. For those things and people, maybe this is good advice.
The majority will not stand in front of their wardrobe every day and confront the choice of outfit on a fundamental level each time no matter if they are a boring person or a avantgarde noise musician. Most people decide once and stay with their decisions, and revisit them every now and then when they feel it is not appropriate anymore.
Doing it that way allows us to invest more time than we would have every day into some decision and harvest the fruit of that investigation for a while. The alternative would be to spend more time each day and more importantly: live with the uncertainty if you will find something suitable each day.
Whether the outfit is a lazy black suit or the most high fashion doesn't really change the way you decide. One can think long and hard and still come up with a boring and tasteless choice after. Others might not think a lot at all and effortlessly choose interesting things. This has to do with aesthetics and is usually about time/energy that has been invested elsewhere.
The point is: choices cost energy. Choices we take every day take energy every day. Not fundamentally questioning your whole existence up to that point every day is resonable.
A have similar observation when going to some of my favourite restaurants. Even when I take my time to look through the menu, I very often choose the same dish or from only two or three standard alternatives, although I was actively deliberating to choose something else this time.
It really seems that it is not only the effort of reaching a decision that is behind the default effect, but some unconscious risk-aversion process that does not allow the mind to rest easily in the non-default case.
truth is nothing matters and everything matters.
Say you are a teenage girl, you see yourself in the mirror, you don't like your body, you think you're fat.
You see other "fat" girls on reddit that receive a lot of praise for displaying themselves half naked.
your looks are very important to you, you think about it constantly and it depresses you.
one day you post a picture on this reddit thing, your face is hidden, it's hard to recognize the place where it was take, but you wanna try'n see what happens.
it works, men (and some women) like your picture, they put a like on it, they compliment your looks, you now feel better about yourself.
so you post more and more of them, everyone more audacious than the one before.
now what's important to you is: how can I be more visible, more visibility = more self esteem!
you open on OF and now what's important is "how can I promote it?".
not long after what's important becomes: how can I make money out of it?
and now you're in trouble, because that's your job and you didn't even know you wanted it and are not sure if it's the right thing to do, but you do it anyway, once you set things in motion, inertia becomes a b*tch.
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It's an hyperbole, I know, but it's the small things that start the engine.
If people only thought about what actually matters it would be: food, water, shelter.
If I never thought "is there another option?" when I was much younger about clubs to go to in my hometown, I would never have discovered the underground music scene lurking in the shadows that has then become a big part of my life and it's now so important to me.
And I was one who did not even cared so much about music and went straight to "the default choice" about it.
> E.g if you never buy unhealthy snacks, you'll never have unhealthy snacks at home,
1 - there's no such thing as healthy snacks (if we are talking about snacks the product and not "a small amount of food eaten between meals")
2 - it means that at one point you though "is there another option?" about snacks, because the default option is not healthy at all, especially in the US, proving that "It doesn’t have to be about big decisions"
> it means that at one point you though "is there another option?" about snacks
Yes, that was my point in the article, though maybe not clear enough. This conversation has given me lots of ideas to improve it. Thank you!
Do you understand why that's unconvincing to most people?
nobody pay you to smoke marijuana, if somebody did and paid you even more to end up being a crackhead, many more people would and your comparison would make more sense.
> Do you understand why that's unconvincing to most people?
false premise, wrong conclusion.
I do this because it removes my agency in the choice.
My conscious story about this is that this comes from attempting to undermine sunk cost and survivor bias; but it could also be an artifact arising from the fact that I don't tend to habituate as much as norms, and therefore I think about "default" decisions more than most people.
Anyway what I get out of this is "life is good" instead of "good choice you made"; "I'd never noticed this difference between these things (or the outcome) before"; or "I really don't like Y as much as X". It also nudges me to contemplate the "both" or "neither" options for a fleeting moment.
People comment on it, for instance strangers in restaurants; people at the grocery store; ordinary people who seem baffled that someone can live their life by flipping a coin.
- Take the first printed word I see
- Sum the letters' ordinal positions ("ramen" == 18+1+13+5+14 == 51)
- Calculate modulus X for one of X choices (51 mod 3 == 0)
- Select option index Y, ordered visually, geographically, temporally, or alphabetically as appropriate, sometimes in reverse to be ornery (["alice", "bob", "eve"][0] == "alice")
And Alice is the winner....
If I'm with another person who also can't decide, I skip the first two steps by asking them for a random number between 1 and (a random two digit number).
Then I just tell them whatever my secret preference was all along, and we watch the good movie together happily.
Kidding about that last part. All movies suck.
> Two roads diverged in a wood, and I— I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference.
is that Frost's line is sarcastic. He wrote this poem about a friend that would endlessly analyze his choices, fretting about not choosing the optimal choice. He'd always be in decision paralysis. Frost was actually saying that either path would have been fine and you should just make a choice instead of wasting all your time overthinking it.
I always thought there was a certain coldness to the way he was making decisions, but it all makes much more sense now that I know more about those past experiences. He seems to think it's the result of the working conditions. I have tons of notes and audio recordings which I want to clean up and publish at some point.
Some day ages and ages hence, I made an inconsequential choice, and THAT made all the different.
So my takeaway from this kind of argument is to explain to my kids that they do have choices and they can make them, and it's not the end of the world if those were the riskier options that didn't turn out well. You can go back to education etc.
There are, of course, irreversible decisions. But when it comes to risk surely the greatest risk is getting old and thinking "dang, wish I'd done that when I was younger, now it's too hard / late and my life is that little bit more boring"
We like defaults with the option to deviate because humans tend to be more alike than we are different and are aware of this fact. Given a lack of knowledge and information around a choice, we gravitate to what we think are our peers choices. We also tend to realize while we're very alike, we do have differences from others and while small, it's important to be able to exercise and customize around those differences. Context may become important, we may grow wiser to make a more informed decision for ourselves and so on. This is why we like the option.
Until I'm knowledgable, show me what others choose, give me expert informed knowledge, or have someone knowledgable interpret the context for me but don't constrain me to these because I will grow, I will eventually understand these things, and I will want the freedom to deviate as needed. Maybe I won't need to deviate, but I don't know that yet.
I definitely find myself in that position. I have a strong resistance to uncritically making decisions based on the default that is presented to me, and while I do view this as a valuable part of my mindset in many circumstances, it also is quite often the wrong call in retrospect, whether it's absorbing too much risk, accepting too much decision fatigue over insignificant choices, or even choosing suboptimally just to make a point
I think a lot of people could benefit from trying to make more choices, but I've very seldom met advice whose opposite wasn't appropriate for someone, and even less often met advice that's wise for everyone in every circumstance
Too often, studies that find that e.g. 67% of their participants behave a certain way - often in fairly constructed conditions - create a false sense of consensus and homogeneity, even among fairly smart consumers of such information, when reported this way
Personally, I find this makes sense in a society of (some) trust. My default options are derived from previous experiences. I have tried all those different snacks between meetings, found them to be lacking, and now set this one to be the default.
I think I choose default choice in contexts where I have a some trust in where the default setting came from.
I trust my favorite restaurant's "today's special", the default option. They have not steered me wrong. I trust my dentist to use the default periodic procedures.
So, to me default is not just blind acceptance, but specific and contextual trust either from previous experiences of mine or with the decision makers' previous decisions.
With software, it's less tested so you're more likely to encounter a bug. With a physical road, more likely to encounter potholes or other dangers.
On deeper reflection, when I'm making those kind of choices, out mountain-biking or yomping, they happen very rapidly and come from a more direct place. My soul is demanding challenge. There's no fatigue. It's not carelessness, just caution taking a back seat and reading the map while I drive.
On the other hand, stuck between the choices of which two fine drinks to order.... comfort kills.
Hah same here, though I've been trying to move past that and make life less bloody difficult for myself.