My experience too is that you face a lot of gaslighting whenever you have non functional requirements.

Back when the Athlon 64 was new I was very annoyed by noisy desktop computers and went through great expense and trouble to pick out quiet parts for a PC, frequently I found the reviews of quiet PC parts from sites like Tom’s Hardware were just plain wrong and that from the power supply to fans and hard drives I had to try multiple parts before I got something really quiet.

I am thinking about building a new PC but I haven’t done it for years since I was so traumatized.