Your experience is exactly what I am describing. Exacting customers imply boutique pricing, and even customers of relative means aren’t in thousands per component to get what they want market segment…I mean for sixty grand you can probably get someone to build the $2500 PC you want.
A note on gaslighting:
If Bob hears something and Alice doesn’t, it is normal for Alice to doubt Bob’s claims…though that isn’t ideal, it isn’t really gaslighting because when it comes to sound quality some. people can hear a difference in a demagnetized audio CD and others on gold plated conductors for digital audio.
Without a relationship with some degree of intimacy, defaulting to the predominance of one’s own experience reinforced by the consensus of public opinions is not unreasonable.
YMMV.