Phone calls aren't really a thing anymore but if someone sends me a message I feel it in my pocket. And if I miss something, so be it. Smart watches can also be configured to buzz your wrist on an incoming message.
Aren't they? What have I missed? Messages are async - if you don't want to disturb, calls are sync - if you need confirmation from the other side or you need several exchanges back and forth.
I text much more than ten years ago but I call (and receive calls) the same or perhaps slightly more.
I never answer my phone unless I'm expecting it or if it is a close relative and I'm not otherwise occupied. I never listen to a voice mail. If I recognize the caller and want to respond I'll send them a text when I get to it. If I don't recognize the caller I might give a quick skim of the VM transcription to see if it was actually important, but it almost never is.