When I work with a 50 (which I very much enjoy; used one yesterday), I find that it is tighter in composition than my normal field of view. The 40 much-better matches my own perception and experience. The 50 is a more-careful tool.
35 is a little wide for me (but perfect for human/photojournalism work). If you want to try out a 40, there are great pancake lenses out there at relatively low cost. The Canon 40mm STM (recently discontinued) and Fuji 27mm are the smallest lenses made by their manufacturers -- cheap, sharp, fast, flexible.
Edit to add: For the specific case of environmental portraiture of kids, I'd probably trend toward a 35 and perhaps even a 28 (the focal length-equivalent on the Google Pixel 3a and 4a and the Q/Q2). The perspective with which we perceive the experience of being a kid is a close and intimate one.