This seems to be related to both gender roles and class. The culture around the male role in a diadic relationship is classist. I wouldn't use the term toxic femininity, but I think in spirit it has some merit. The complaining about what words you "can say" is annoying for sure.

yes it does. It is well known that women have a proclivity to climb the social ladder and marry upwards, therefore desiring wealth etc. Duckduckgo hypergamy.

I obviously used the term in a sarcastic manner, to show how stupid it is, together with its sister term