> I don't want independence and I have no use for power.
I used to think like this, it's easy to dismiss, "I want power" sounds like something a maniac would say. I don't believe you truly don't want independence, maybe less, but that still sounds like a real issue.
> I think that in the past loads of people lived like this;
> servants lived almost like children
That's absolutely not true, I'm no history buff, but servants had all sorts of pressure and responsibility put on them. Their tasks may have been menial in skill, but they were damn well complicated. Imagine bringing the wrong drink or spilling a glass of wine in front of the king, off with your head. They seem like children to us because life is so much more complex, we didn't die at 30.
> already have a therapist, but so far he hasn't been able to turn me into a man
Maybe I've mistaken your casual wording, but it's not their job to turn you into anything, they're supposed to at the very least analyze. Depending on their practice, they might give concrete guidance.
If you want to be some wealthy old mans pet, that's fine by me, but I don't believe you don't want independence, no one doesn't. I think you're just overwhelmed by the mundane obstacles we all need to pass to earn it.
For example:
>I just want to focus on having fun and spending time with good people without managing every single minor aspect of my life and having responsibility over stuff I don't care about
That's the bare minimum of reality, we've all got those things, even Kim Kardashian.
Maybe your job is too complicated and demanding? There's a place you can reduce your responsibility, but it doesn't have to be so black and white.