When I asked friends to donate for Amit, I had a hard time asking them to lie when donating. This is the limit of "lying for a good cause", especially when the person doesn't know Amit.
A lot of people have this in-built sense that lying must be illegal and it mostly just isn't except in very specific circumstances. This is a clear cut example of lying for a good cause. I do empathize with the refusal of a lot of gay people to subjugate themselves for the sake of a broken system.