I would add:
4. It's hard to understand and appreciate the advice without experiencing the situation first.
4. It's hard to understand and appreciate the advice without experiencing the situation first.
But lesson #3 is still imo what most causes your #4. Having thr humility & where-withall to understand & appreciate your own limits of cognition, to be able to appreciate & respect the things you dont fully know: that is what makes the better person, that is what it takes to start to grow & mature.
Not wanting advice is not functionally different from failing to let oneself atune to & receieve the messages about. Accept, even if not fully understand: just register, just let it in a bit, if not necessarily yet take up.