Perhaps the question is interpreted differently when you ask privately.

If you were to ask me in public I would say that gender identity is an inappropriate topic for young children. But as a parent, I know my own kids can handle a "woke" teacher. In fact, it's good for them to see a concrete example of what we're talking about, so I would answer the question differently in private because I would be answering for my own family and not for what I think would be good for society.