No one is forcing you to live in the city you do now. I am probably in a similar income range yet live a <3 miles from a major city that is known for high housing market.

People have such high expectations of housing, they are pricing themselves out. I do live in a 60+ year old, 1400 sf house, but that doesn't bother me.

I empathize for you, I do, but nothing you've said here means you deserve to live in San Francisco and a) not somewhere else or b) more than anyone else.

You do not deserve to live in San Francisco. Sorry.

What's probably a bit more toxic about your attitude is the implied belief that you deserve "better" than everywhere else in the US, that San Francisco is "yours* and not anyone else's.

And not for nothing, but I do have children (two) and am entirely capable of empathizing with others.