victim blaming requires someone choosing to do something that creates a victim
as you can see, this is at odds with the prior posters observation and puts you both at an impasse
I can empathize with the limitations of evidence and the limitations of the law as a reflection of the culture
that alone doesn’t help me pick a side based on any “lived experience” or power dynamic
But for anyone reading this: don’t put your hands on people necks just because of the lack of evidence or consequences. Its very abusive to target people that made a permanent digital message of flirting with you, or targeting people that you know made a white lie sometime in their life that you can use against them if they ever go to the police about something else, society relies on the mutual cooperation of everyone at all times