This goes both ways. We don't know which party is guilty. It could be the women. It could be the defendant. We don't know. We don't have access to the case files. The jury is still out there.
Pretty sure this is not how the HN commenters behave with their colleagues in real life or they would be without jobs pretty soon. Pretty sure they would hate it if they were the target of such comments that they spew out here. But here on HN, it is just so easy to sit behind a keyboard and become an armchair expert in everything and attack others or their work or their inventions or their writings. Absolutely deplorable. I am very disappointed!
And even if I did, and decided I don't want to let my daughter near him based on the rumours, I would certainly not slander him in public based on rumours
> “In the unlikely event that you are falsely accused, remember that it will be much easier for you to overcome false allegations than it will be for actual victims to overcome the trauma of harassment or assault.”
Your refusal to learn what happened is not a firm of wisely handling doubt
that being reiterated, thats a total nightmare for the guy in that couple to reinforce his girlfriend to see Dan, another man, and then needing to rescue her from peril, whether that’s just reckless driving that made her uncomfortable and putting her in danger or if thats includes a someone (Dan’s) hand on her neck and that crossing her boundaries and that relationship’s boundaries (I would say consensual or nonconsensual, but these are things I don't know with this dynamic, read below). Thats nightmarish when I think about people I love.
I find it interesting that they both made a trip to Seattle from San Diego and the boyfriend was therefore available to rescue her by car, I am wondering if that context was made clear during this date with Dan. This doesnt excuse any nonconsensual thing, there are some aspects I find completely foreign.
The second sentence stands on its own.
No need for name-calling.