I don't have an answer, but perhaps we'll gradually better understand these things as time goes on, though doing so will require taking a step back from political or ideological thinking on the topic.
The problem is that self-identifying transgender children are being removed from families when the family has doubts about transition. Writer Lisa Selin Davis covers this extensively:
https://lisaselindavis.substack.com/p/parents-are-being-inve...
Parents are losing custody for refusing to use a child’s preferred pronouns:
https://lisaselindavis.substack.com/p/blinded-by-gender?s=w
California is floating a bill to legally affirm this practice:
https://wesleyyang.substack.com/p/the-dangerous-overreach-of...