You know what the strongest form of infosec is, in this domain?
Not having an affair.
It's been said a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle. I say a human being needs an affair like a bug needs a zapper racket.
Not having an affair.
It's been said a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle. I say a human being needs an affair like a bug needs a zapper racket.
I think the GP is aimed primarily with sympathy for the vast minority of female users, and perhaps an uncharacteristically more emotional subgroup of male users, implicitly baked in.
¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I suggest changing where you are looking for people, hanging out, or just doing new things. If the places you are looking have nothing for you, change where you are looking.
You got this man.
* religious organization
* hobbys
* service (lots of hot young chicks volunteer at animal shelters)
and tbh even if u dont find a girl right away you'll still get smth from all of those. keep ur head up king.
You are a unique individual, I think. That said, maybe start thinking of women as human beings.
I think the best way to summarize what I mean, I once got invited by him to his church, and the only reason he stated was "that's where all the hot girls are". I found it to be a pretty solid reason, and his assertion definitely aligned with my previous experiences with the matter, but I had to politely decline. Mostly because I felt pretty awkward about going as a non-religious person, and I knew he was actually pretty religious.
1. i'm not. it rly doesn't bother me except for the tiny group that will go sleep with like 5 or 6 ppl in a short period and causes problems. idgaf what ppl do otherwise just saying its a public health problem.
2. i'm not a huge advocate of organized religion im just saying it's a good place to meet potential partners and i seen it work.
3. i'm young so uhh yeah? i like hot ppl like almost everybody else and i like women so uhh there's why i guess. not "targeting" but that's who i like to date lol. just bc there's a public health problem with ppl hooking up with like 5 ppl in a weekend doesn't mean i got anything against dating.
> You are a unique individual
thx bro
> start thinking of women as human beings?
uhh what? idk how i gave the wrong idea about this.
And sticking with a broken marriage "for the sake of the kids" isn't always the wrong thing to do. It depends.
Cheating involves deception, the deception is telling your partner that they're your exclusive romantic interest when they're not. If everybody knows and everyone is fine with it, then there is no problem.
I figured the idea was more "having an affair can be OK if you really need it because your marriage sucks, divorce and a negotiated open relationship are not viable options, and provided no one finds out"
that bar is so high, I applaud anyone who can even comprehend it.
Maybe...
"Up yours woke religious moralists. We'll see who condemns who."
I have not looked at the original study, but from what I gather from the results basically nobody is having an affair (the median for time spend in an affair is still 0, the 3/4 quantile is still only 0.48 (time units) and the maximum is 57.60 (time units)).
I am not sure what "time units" is ... it is probably in the original paper, but I did not bother to look that up. Even if it is years, that would mean that 75% of the people spend less than half a year in an affair over their lifetime. Once married this drops significantly and reduces further over the years of marriage.
Also if the models show nobody is cheating, the data should be considered suspicious. Maybe the word “affair” is an issue. It insinuates a long term situation when really a lot of this falls under hookups/prostitution.
Possible ... when the cost of getting caught is high, even if it is just a perceived risk, I would expect that people "cheat" on those questionnaires.
Oh and if you're single and 'lust' after someone else then you're also eternally damned. That always made ~dating~ [courtship] awkward.
The advice comes off as "best way to avoid being robbed is to never have anything of value".