Both subreddits are full of users helping grandma only to get banned for commercial use, for example.
I gave RustDesk (FOSS) a try and it was nice but slow and I don’t currently have the time or resources to self host near me to see if that makes a difference.
There is a need in this space for a good home use Remote Desktop that’s easy to use and if touted as free for non-commercial use, doesn’t end up banning you later without hard evidence (or just limit free users to 1 session, etc).
Right now they all seem to be chasing medium/large/enterprise money which makes sense I suppose due to the current state of remote work.