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My guess is gay is less likely to get it nailed by filters.

Possibly. It's not uncommon for folks to use gay to mean queer/LGBTQ and unintentionally exclude folks. It's a holdover from earlier gay rights and gay liberation movements. The history there is complicated.

You also see folks specifically omit the T these days (LBG) to specifically include trans folks.

To be clear, the OP sounds like they are a good person and I'm not accusing them of anything negative! Just noting that some folks might interpret the URL differently than intended.

Personally I am not the "G" in LGBTQ+ but I prefer to be described as gay than queer, because in many parts of the world where I lived or visited, queer is still a slur and carries a lot of emotional baggage with it. I don't think it's problematic for a modern website to choose to use gay as the catch-all. Really how people choose to be referred to is just a matter of personal preference, it's not nearly as important as actions or intent. If the site is legit, people will appreciate it all the same.

Yep. Language is hard. Queer is absolutely a reclaimed slur, and comes with all that baggage, making it either political, fine, or too heavy depending on where you live.

In general, I don't mind queer folks calling me queer, but I really bristle when I hear cishet folks use it.

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