I would say most children in Western nations are wanted by their parents. They're mostly just a cost economically speaking, so no incentive to have more than you want.

I think most people can achieve happiness in their situation, even under bad conditions, if they have a sound mind. Those elites might have a better shot at accidental happiness, but being upset over that will do nothing good for your own state of mind, so why let it bring you down? You can't change how the world works.

Happiness comes from within, and from meaningful social connections.

Most everyone experiences joy at many points in life. Joy comes from family, friends, accomplishment/mastery, personal growth, learning, and sometimes just from having a great day. It’s not like you need a yacht to find some joy.