It’s not that I think people should be ashamed of those things if they do it with consenting adults in private, it’s when it’s broadcast and easily available that it becomes something shameful IMHO. I’m not advocating for the banning of so-called kinks, just the easy access to (and I suppose the normalization/mainstreaming of) those kinks.
When a 12 year old can access any of these extreme sex videos easier than they access a NYTimes article, then something has to change.
Why can't consenting adults broadcast their own private activities? Why is it their responsibility to parent the world's 12 year olds?
It's relatively new that it isn't; wasn't culture pre-1970 or so arranged with kids in mind?