I would recommend reading: https://www.amazon.com/No-More-Mr-Nice-Guy/dp/0762415339
You can ignore the women part, but the author touches on some of the reasons people act like you act and how to change.
You can ignore the women part, but the author touches on some of the reasons people act like you act and how to change.
It doesn’t mean you can’t help people without advancing your own agenda… but it does mean that if you do choose to help people for nothing in return, you’re doing it because you truly want to and honestly do not expect anything in return.
The difficulty comes when people view the world as having some kind of universal ledger, where if they give enough, they will be owed things (by the other person or the universe in general) in return. This is where resentment comes from.
It’s a great book that has helped me greatly.
(Don’t be put off by the title, which might make you think it’s somehow related to incel/redpill culture. It’s not. This is actually the book they should be reading instead of all their cynical takes on the world.)
That kinda reminds me of the Giver / Taker / Matcher types. Like I don't mind giving, but it depends on what the person does with my help. If it's for profit generation, that's really not nice.
But again - I'll read the book :))