She's quite torn. She doesn't actually like Germany all that much. She left about 8 years ago, and has never worked there. But, she's an only child, and she's very close to her parents. So, in addition to the support they could provide in raising our family, she feels guilty about leaving them in Germany.

If it weren't for her parents, she said she would push for the US. For all its problems, she likes how friendly and open people are. She often complains when interacting with other Germans about how unnecessarily unfriendly and closed off they can be.

We've discussed the possibility of bringing her parents to the US, assuming we moved there, but that would be a long process, and challenging. She would need to live there 5 years to qualify for citizenship, then she would need to revoke her German citizenship (which she would find very hard to do), and then the process of getting visas for the parents can take another few years. So we're looking at like a 7-8 year process.

Her feelings about Germany do give me a bit of pause about moving there. I've always enjoyed myself in Germany, but my German is rudimentarily (I'm taking classes now to fix that) and I've never actually lived there, so I don't think I can rely on my experience as a visiting foreigner to my experience as an immigrant.