Yeah it’s something that has burned me out after 15 years of development. Work then go hang out with some people from work and they just talk about work or side projects. When you are younger I kinda of understood and was also one of the people doing it but now that I’m older im amazed at how many people never find anything outside of work.
Im strictly 9-5 and done now and don’t do any work events if I can avoid it. I was thinking about joining a decent sized startup recently 150+ and when I was meeting some of the team one of the first things I was asked was “so what side projects are you working on right now”. I was already a little worried about startup culture but after that was said I just told them I wasn’t interested after.