1. She has an ADHD child

2. She claims to have not lived up to expectations, something commonly attributed to people with ADHD

3. ADHD has a significant (70%) genetic component.

4. "if I wasn’t good at it, I simply didn’t do it."

5. "I didn’t have the drive or the courage"

Probably worth an evaluation, though it might well have already been done if her child has a diagnosis.