I make a a great wage and have savings in the bank. However I have a 6 month old baby at home and a wife who is taking time off from her career to look after our baby. I also left a job I was at for almost 5 years and exercised my options on the way out. This cost me almost $30k in cash. At my new job early exercising would cost me nearly $40k. Spending $40k to early exercise this startup's equity grant feels like it might be a little irresponsible. It wouldn't surprise me at all if other people didn't have that much lying around.
I don’t doubt that many people have the same thought process, but if I decline to early exercise from a company that offers that option the alternative is a massive tax bill down the road that I didn’t need to pay if the company does remotely well.
I'll vest my options here without exercising and if they turn into something one day that'll be nice. In the meantime I'll collect the nice salary I negotiated for myself and grow my career the way I wanted.
Edit:
A little clarification about my last role. I took that job because they were using tech I wanted to learn and they had a team I wanted to work with. They also offered me salary that was a healthy bump from where I was at at the time. I didn't early exercise those options back then because I didn't know enough about the company to justify plunking down the cash. After being there nearly 5 years I believe in the company a lot and see the exercise as a smart investment. I don't have that clarity yet for my current role and so it just doesn't make sense to me to early exercise.
Also, $10k is a lot of money. Even if you have it in savings (and I'd agree a lot of tech people technically do), it's a huge gamble on an unknown startup. You're already gambling your time; now you're supposed to also gamble your money?
these types of work environments self select for people who are comfortable taking on risk. no one is forcing you or anyone else to join.
Sure people can not work at companies that don't provide 10 year exercise options. Its not like they are slaves.
But that doesn't mean there aren't better ways of structuring options and it is bad to point this out.