Totally fair. As a parent, no one told me what the experience was going to be like. An older friend (with college age children) said, “if we told you what it was like, you never would’ve had them.” It’s expensive. It’s suffering. It is never ending, and there is no guarantee your children will care about you when they become adults and are autonomous. You’ve taken on a decades long job you’re paying for.
Consider my comments as attempts to inform before permanent life decisions are made, because for many, no one is being real about what the experience is going to be like.