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Comment by swah | Hacker News Reader

Honorable idea, but in practice, all men will set "I can pay" and all women will set the "feed me", so the feature kinda doesn't make a difference?

Maybe just make the app with only the "split" option and market it like that, with another name.

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Really? Most of the women I’ve met on dating apps (which admittedly isn’t that many) have been quite uncomfortable with the idea of me paying and have preferred to split. I believe they see the man paying as a sign of an older time where women weren’t considered equal to men.

I think things are definitely going in this direction. But again it depends who you're dating! Also these rules apply differently in the queer community and the app is open to everyone so hopefully there will be many women who offer to pay and many men who want to paid for too

No, not really. I don't use those platforms - I was thinking more in the sense that women are outnumbered 10:1 (or 100:1 ?) on those apps and "get to choose" the terms.

Also there is a meme (?) that even average looking women on Tinder will be super picky ie "he must be 6'+, have a 6 figure salary, and has to hit the gym everyday day*...

That's fair, but the preference is pinned to the TWIB/location, not the user. So while some men may offer to pay for a meal at the most expensive restaurant in town, not all men will necessarily offer to pay at any location.

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