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Show HN: TWIBS — map-based financially-transparent dating

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TWIBS is a new kind of dating app where you can place pins at locations on the map and specify who would pay for the date. Then wait for people to message you or browse the map to see where other people put their TWIBS.

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I feel like this is actually a really effective way of finding people who think like you. The places you choose to spend your free time says a lot about you. I'm surprised this hasn't been done before. I also feel a little weird declaring my payment preferences upfront like that, but I can understand why that's important and offers transparency in a refreshing way.

Honorable idea, but in practice, all men will set "I can pay" and all women will set the "feed me", so the feature kinda doesn't make a difference?

Maybe just make the app with only the "split" option and market it like that, with another name.

That's fair, but the preference is pinned to the TWIB/location, not the user. So while some men may offer to pay for a meal at the most expensive restaurant in town, not all men will necessarily offer to pay at any location.

Really? Most of the women I’ve met on dating apps (which admittedly isn’t that many) have been quite uncomfortable with the idea of me paying and have preferred to split. I believe they see the man paying as a sign of an older time where women weren’t considered equal to men.

I think things are definitely going in this direction. But again it depends who you're dating! Also these rules apply differently in the queer community and the app is open to everyone so hopefully there will be many women who offer to pay and many men who want to paid for too

No, not really. I don't use those platforms - I was thinking more in the sense that women are outnumbered 10:1 (or 100:1 ?) on those apps and "get to choose" the terms.

Also there is a meme (?) that even average looking women on Tinder will be super picky ie "he must be 6'+, have a 6 figure salary, and has to hit the gym everyday day*...

This is a really cool concept that acknowledges the more transactional nature of certain relationships and sets an honest playing field. I would worry about people taking advantage and security but no more than any other dating app.

Is who would pay for the date really a big factor in anyone’s decision about who to date? Seems like a pretty basis on which to start a relationship!

A substantial portion of people don't use dating apps to find a relationship. You may just be visiting a city and interested in having someone take you out to the nicest restaurant in town.

If you're looking to settle down then the payment factor probably doesn't matter so much, in which case you could place TWIBS at your local pizza place, bowling alley, hiking trails.

The idea is to help people find what they're actually looking for instead of assuming everyone is out to find "the one"

So a dating app based on the misogynist stereotype that women are going on dates to eat dinners?

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