I don't know what you mean by n=1. If someone goes to the hospital to get treatment for a rash, the doctor has methods to determine if the rash is from poison ivy, or an allergic reaction, or a burn, or eczema, even if those rashes all look visually similar, even with an N=1 patient. Because we have established diagnostic lab tests to assay for certain biomarkers.
If your question is, how can we currently do this with Autism, the answer is, we cant. Yet. That is the whole point of performing basic research to understand the underlying etiology. If we stop doing this research, we'll never find out.
Wrt. your second question, a lot of medications are simply "bandaids", and that is indeed a problem. Adderall doesn't cure ADHD, Zoloft doesn't cure depression, Levodopa doesn't cure Parkinson's. They are acceptable for now because they offer some relief from the symptoms, but do nothing to fix underlying problem.
So for a concrete example Levodopa is given to both Parkinson's and Huntington's disease patients. However if we get to the point where we can reverse Huntington's disease using CRISPR to edit the trinucleotide repeat issue, should we expect this same method to work with Parkinsons patients just because the two disorders have similar symptoms? Absolutely not. Parkinsons has nothing to do with trinucleotide repeats. Which is good to know, so we don't attempt a highly invasive treatment on people who we know for a fact won't benefit from it (and may likely do more harm than good on them).