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> I didn’t read all the comments but didn’t spot a single one from anyone female.

To be honest I only skimmed the article because there was so much pain and unkindness in it that I didn’t want to carefully read the whole thing.

More broadly, I tend to stay out of these threads. The first of its kind that I read on HN (about divorce, I think) shocked me a little. I left with a feeling that some people commenting both loathed women and really wanted female attention. It was strange and uncomfortable. It was also quite sad because I realised that someone behaving like that probably would struggle to get dates, because it would scare the women they want to date, and that would feed into the feeling of anger. So now I tend to avoid these threads.

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Let’s face it, a lot of computer programmers are on the autism spectrum. Not shocking information but noteworthy in the context of dating.

A scary amount of men just don't think of women as people.

It's really quite simple a lot of men just want to be able to experiment sexually before they settle down. A lot of women do too. The difference is for women this is easily available in the dating world.. for men.. especially short men.. it's a distant fantasy. If these needs were met they would harbor no resentment towards women.

I honestly think a lot of men just don't like women, or at least don't respect them.

Maybe it's because I was exposed to a lot of sexism in my CS undergrad (and even some jobs I've had), but it really does seem like some men think of women as inferior.

Maybe because it's a male dominated field, you'd probably find the same bias against men in the field of child care for example.

I have a male friend who's a nurse. Definitely no where near the same level of sexism.

This is not really a response to what I said but I will agree sexism is a huge problem

I mean, you're basically stating that women are objects to fulfill the needs of men so it's pretty clearly a response to what you're saying.

Sure, and if Elon Musk gave me all his money, it would alleviate my resentment toward him. But he doesn't owe me anything, and my demand is not reasonable.

I’m not sure what to say to this. It’s a perspective that I find difficult to understand. The closest I’ve managed to get is “sometimes people struggle to cope with disappointment and not getting what they want”. The resulting resentment and anger at an entire group… that’s still alien to me. It’s sad to hear about, though, because it seems like the kind of feeling that tears apart a person inside.

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