> As if women are a monolithic bloc conspiring against your genes. As if women are spherical horses acting out the simple laws of your evolutionary psychology
This is a borderline strawman. Such conclusions are based on population level trends. And yes, just like any other sexually dimorphic species, there quite literally is a "conspiracy" against undesirable genes, though it isn't necessarily conscious or absolute.
I think post feminism people generally are unwilling to acknowledge that femininity can be just toxic as masculinity in its own ways, so they deny the absolute cruelty that women can collectively and inadvertently impose on less desirable men. Perhaps norms which enforce monogamy are a compromise which optimizes for overall happiness and societal function, as an alternative to legions of demotivated and disaffected young men in a hypergamist society.
>My advice to y’all is to get out of the sausage factory and start meeting some people in real life.
Did it ever occur to you that these observations might be coming from short guys who have experienced this negative selection pressure in real life? It's not like it's limited to dating, we all know about the research into the correlation between stature and salary, position, and other metrics of success; are short guys just not trying hard enough in their professional lives too?
Think of it like microagressions, except there's no one to advocate for you, and your immutable trait is objectively, defensibly negative, unlike racial/sexual discrimination. I would bet that short guys in (especially multicultural?) societies with a wide height variance are severely underrepresented in social settings like bars, because the soft stigma is always there.
Reality is unfair. Have some compassion.