You are correct, applying traditional education methods to online/home school is unlikely to work well. Concepts like "homework" are generally obsolete at the home school level. Independent learning replaces the antiquated idea that our children need to be preoccupied with boring, grindy work when they are out of the "classroom". Children will have plenty of time to grind when they get older. Building a love for learning is 100x more important than rote memorization.

The child's age is also significant... I certainly would not have a child under 12 working under the the same expectations as a teenager. Additionally, every child develops at a different rate, so finding that sweet spot is an important part of home schooling. These are all things that the public school mentality finds incredulous.

So I agree with what you are saying, but so many people still think the model for home school should be the same as a public/private school situation, which is where things fall apart. It's obvious to me that children always need to be well socialized and have a variety of teachers and experiences, but that can be achieved if the parent is proactive and willing to spend the required time and money to foster learning over optimizing for succeeding in the public school system.