For example, if you wanted to get involved in Kubernetes you'd go to KubeCon, and governance of the OSS project is pretty understandable?
What is the equivalent in WebAssembly land?
To attend the meetings, first join the W3C WebAssembly Community Group here: https://www.w3.org/groups/cg/webassembly, then email the CG chairs at webassembly-cg-chair@chromium.org to ask for an invite.
From there you'll get a sense of who folks are so you can pair names with faces when contributing to the various proposal discussions on the many proposal repos listed here: https://github.com/webassembly/proposals.
To get a sense of how things are run and decided, read the process documents here: https://github.com/WebAssembly/meetings/tree/main/process. The TL;DR is that the community group and its subgroups decide everything by consensus via votes during the meetings.