I reiterate the advice I gave in the other thread. It sounds as if a lot of your anxiety is due to being unsure whether what you're doing is OK. That anxiety can be alleviated if you establish more certainty about your direction by learning to recognize the goodness in yourself and cultivating it so that it gets bigger and stronger and shines through into your life more brightly.

Do you see what I mean? If, when I walk down the street, I have a strong feeling of kindness for everyone I see, a feeling that naturally makes me have a big genuine smile, do you think it bothers me if people think I have bad posture, or don't approve of my clothes, or whatever else? Having a daily practice where I make contact with my goodness and do something to help it grow gives me certainty that my direction is good. If other people still think badly of me for some superficial reason, it just seems like they're blind to what's important, and overly concerned with trifles.