Ultimately you have no right to intrude on my brain, sorry.
"Would you be ‘abused’ if I mentioned my same-sex spouse and it violated your assumed reality?"
Probably not because I could see that your spouse has the same sex as you, so it wouldn't violate my perception? I don't get the point of your example.
The point of the "publicly state you believe in something that is obviously not true" is a symbolic subjugation of the person made to do it. It is "swearing in" to the ideology. Like Gallileo announcing publicly that the sun revolves around the earth.
what right do you actually claim to protect your perceptions? lordy, what a mess.