>These attitudes SEEM like they are non-judgemental and egalitarian, but they tend to miss all the implicit ways in which the dominant society does NOT treat people equally in these circumstances.

So, what would you have us do?

I treat each individual as an individual and interact with them based on their individual actions, not based on any immutable characteristics.

I fully support inclusion, diversity, honesty and good citizenship and speak out when I see bigotry, hatred and abuse.

It seems like you're implying that doing so is somehow disingenuous or posturing and that I need to do more. Do I understand you correctly?

Should I, as a middle-aged, heterosexual, "white" male, carry around lots of cash so I can give every woman, POC, differently-abled and LGBTQ+ person I encounter US$20? As "reparations" for the white male privilege that I never asked for, don't want and actively argue against?

This may seem like some sort of anti-progressive rant, but it's not.

So, other than trying hard to be a decent human being and interacting with and about others based on their actions rather than some immutable characteristics, calling out hatred and bigotry when I see it and supporting political candidates who do the same, what exactly do you propose that I do?