I think what game me the impression is that you posted in response to "If civilians don’t want to die I think we should let them chose that." This made it seem like you opposed letting them choose.
0.) this is not a choice where either option is remotely good, both options presented by Russia a terrible and arbitrarily dictated by Russia. 1.) to call for what it is, Russia decided their options are to become Russian prisoners, hostages to use against their immediate family, or die by the Russian sieges.
I fully agree that Russia is providing limited options, and that they suck.
2.) acknowledge that this rewards Russia bombing and murdering of civilians, thus encouraging them to continue bombing and murdering civilians.
What is "this", and who is rewarding Russia here? Again, this makes it seem like someone is complicit and should stop the flow of civilians. Russia is indeed getting an advantage here... but who is letting them get away with it and what you they do instead, if not stop it.
3.) Russia has repeatedly broken their word, promising to allow evacuations only to continue shelling, so any promises of treatment are worthless.
I'm not surprised..
4.) there are other options some better like China stepping in behind the scenes to demand Putin a cease fire that isn’t violated or much worse options like a no fly zone.
Im not sure that any of these are realistic or actual options. A better "option" would be for Putin and Zelensky to hug it out, but that isn't going to happen. Same with China stepping in.