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I don’t think you need to underplay OP issues. While he may be better off financially than lots of people, feeling lost with little passion for life is still not a good situation, and he deserves to feel the way he does.

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He's not underplaying it. He is telling him to have perspective. Life has been pretty good to OP, at least as he portrays it.

OP is not wrong. Time is running out. His best physical years are behind him. On the plus side he has deep experience. He probably has seen quite a bit. Maybe his feeling of having seen everything is justified.

Existential dread is a bit of a thing, but it comes for the successful and the truly unsuccessful alike.

OP is also probably right, it's probably time to find a new passion, in tech or outside of tech. All of the other advice in this thread to really make sure you're focused on your health in all forms from this age forward is spot on.

> His best physical years are behind him.

They could be. Or it could depend on OP. Tom Brady has more Super Bowl Trophies and MVP selections from __after__ he was 37.

There are plenty of athletic sports where being young does not offer easy superiority.

People like Tom Brady are extremely rare exceptions though, at the far, far end of the spectrum. In most competitive sports, player hit their peak relatively young, in most cases before they turn 35. This doesn't mean getting older necessarily makes one worse, but it definitely increases things like recovery times, chance of injury, etc. that tend to have that combined effect.

I mean, Brady's an exception of course but quarterbacks and kickers can trend significantly older than most other positions in football because they're highly protected by both the rules and their teams and play designs because they're essential scoring roles and their value is largely accuracy, not physically beating an opponent one on one. The same is not true for most of the other players on the field.

This. I am 37 now and feel healthier and overall happier than when I was 15, 20 or 25. It really depends.

So, I really did bounce back and forth on putting a qualifying "his best days are likely behind him". In an absolute sense, you will never have as many fitness "opportunity" as you did when you were 16-35. Speaking as an older dude who exercises a lot: Enjoy working out way, way harder than you should at a young age and getting away with it because your body is like a superhero with its recovery rate.

I didn't mean anything beyond pure athleticism. Sport is another matter.

Physically, it's much more tricky to train and become an at an older age. But I'll agree that for some folks, you can be a better version of yourself at earlier ages -- it is just dependent on what type of athlete you were then, and much permanent damage your body has sustained over the years.

I ran sub 17 5k at 18 years old. Will my tendons and knees support the kind of workload that is required to attempt that again?

One day, your body will fail. Even Tom Brady knows father time always, always wins. You have to choose your battles and figure out where you want to spend your time.

Measured in absolute peak performance wise, yeah you're right. He will never be an olympian. However most people don't have the opportunity to "discover" their physical ability at 15 nor at 25. So in other words : For most - if they start a regular exercise regime at 40 they will end up at the best shape of their lives.

I'm not saying this is the case here, but there have been occasions where I got all up in my head about my problems and someone laughing at me and telling me not to take my problems so seriously was the perfect way to stop worrying and focus on better things.

Really? For me it was the perfect way to stop asking this person for advice.

I thought the parent made an excellent point, and encouraged OP to try new things without hesitation because there wasn't much he was going to lose, and because he was in that condition because he wasn't trying out new things (meaning there no serious psychological issues with him). I would be glad to get his advice.

It reads like a humblebrag to me.

"had 2 failed startups". "I am single and haven't had a serious relationship for many years now."

I don't see the bragging part, personally.

Is deserves the right word? I’d say he is entitled to feel that way - not that he deserves it since that implies causality and almost seems like victim blaming.

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