To my simple mind, unless we find another case of life in this universe, there is no way to determine/estimate/calculate the frequency/probability of origin of life. Unless someone can convince me, in a simple way, that it is possible to determine.
The Solar System itself has plenty of examples of water. For example, Enceladus is surmised to be completely covered in an ocean below its icy crust. As far as I know, there's not much evidence that points to life as being special. Earth is certainly special in the time window that we are experiencing it in given its balances of energy, heat, water, etc.
Utilizing models to predict what's out there doesn't seem all that controversial when evidence points to life not being all that hard cosmically. We just don't have strong enough binoculars yet.
Seems like you're happy with your own theories.